tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4282255634495181995.post5184833025046747307..comments2023-07-07T04:29:15.603-04:00Comments on The Filthy Ramblings of a Dirty Girl on Lock: Answering Prop. 3 QuestionsBlack Pearlhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15275143196886402451noreply@blogger.comBlogger3125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4282255634495181995.post-48025868579030323682009-11-12T19:39:27.223-05:002009-11-12T19:39:27.223-05:00@Dewey - my children definitely play a huge part i...@Dewey - my children definitely play a huge part in whether I will or won't. I have no doubt in my secret keeping skills. I haven't figured out a way that he would actually find out. LOL<br /><br />@IHS - that was the most poignant response I think I've gotten to date! Thank you. Locking the urges away is what got me to creating this blog in the first place. I completely understand about that cauldron bubbling over, my husband still has things that he hangs issues I had with his mother over my head from when we were first married. He'll never let me forget cheating. I truly wish that I lived in a realm where fantasies came to life and the harshness of reality was just a distant dream.Black Pearlhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15275143196886402451noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4282255634495181995.post-79149862465898811492009-11-12T12:43:15.791-05:002009-11-12T12:43:15.791-05:00When we can't get what we "need" at ...When we can't get what we "need" at home the choices are very limited; we can try to "lock it away" somewhere until we go mad; we can find a way to deal with it in fantasy; we can find ways to "get it" and live with ourselves; or we can walk away and start over somewhere else.<br /><br />The first time I "cheated", being young and naive, I felt so guilty I confessed and I can tell you you are right, it's never ever forgiven...it's been over 30 years and it's still right there, bubbling under the surface, ready to boil at a moment's notice!<br /><br />Our time in this realm being finite, there is only so much pleasure available to each of us; would it were a world we weren't faulted for enjoying it while we can!inherservicehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13604891106353570038noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4282255634495181995.post-90323150646527872672009-11-11T23:36:44.019-05:002009-11-11T23:36:44.019-05:00This isn't an easy one to answer. I have no e...This isn't an easy one to answer. I have no experience in the cheating field. When I started to venture outside of marriage, wifey was right there, watching participating. And then eventually she wasn't there anymore and I was doing my own thing. <br /><br />Anyways, I can't answer this for you. My gut says no because you have children, yet my libido, my fantasy side says yes, go for it. If the impact of doing it all could have negative ramifications on the children then I'd really have to say don't do it. They come first in my book. I don't like to think of anything being risked at a cost to them. <br /><br />Gosh, but if you knew you could keep it a secret, then my irrational side says YES!Dewey's Systemhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00138381961849281941noreply@blogger.com