Hey Bill, I loved your questions and thoughts on Nocturnal Chat #5 so much I had to respond to you directly (so everyone could see, of course ;->)
Yes, my number one fantasy is to have one dick in my ass and one in my pussy (with guy #1 laying under me in my pussy, me on my stomach facing him, and guy #2 in my ass standing). The feeling I can only imagine as supercalifrajalisticexbealidoious!
I find it commendible that you would want your woman to have her utmost desires, and wish my husband had a male friend that he could talk to that could explain such things to him.
I think that IF I were to ever get this fantasy with my husband, he would have a million rules about it. He's already told me it would have to be a stranger, and somehow I doubt he'd let me discuss it with him after all was felt and cummed. I think I would have such an undying burning love for my husband for putting his sexual hangups aside to let me have this fantasy. He thinks it will be opening Pandora's Box and that I'll want it more and more...unfortunately I couldn't argue with him over that point at all. Plus, I don't think he would want my complete honesty if I did thoroughly enjoy, he'll be wanting to hear that it was the worst experience ever and for me to beg to never do it again. Told him I couldn't promise that either. But at least he knows how much I want it, right?
As far as "a" list goes, I had to chuckle because our therapist had us do that...guess who finished their list months ago? ME ME ME!! We're supposed to try to do at least 3 things off the list per day, but alas I have no list for him. But since discussion of the list and our marathon sex talk, he's definitely more aware. I do think I will create a "Fantasy List" for him, and like you it may be pages and pages long!! LOL
P.S. You are so lucky to have found someone who is not only accepting of your sexuality but willing to enjoy it with unabashedly.